So, this isn't really a Kimchi thing, so much as it is a Mama thing. I'm just hoping to tap into whatever Kimchi Mama resources are out there, because I'm in need of some guidance.
First, some background... Last spring, I got engaged. =) My daughter is currently 4 and a half. We're not planning on getting married until the summer of 2010. My fiance is a grad student right now. He doesn't live with us, because I think the stress of moving isn't a good match for someone who is trying to finish his degree.
So, we're in limbo. My fiance stays over at my house on the weekends, but we don't see him during the week because our schedules don't work in a way that it makes sense. My daughter knows that he's part of our family (he's not her dad). When we play house, I'm always the mom, and she's always the sister, and he's always the brother (and sometimes even the little sister).
Part of me believes that this is because she doesn't have any other way of fitting him in to our family. She has a dad; he just doesn't live with us. So, I can see how she wouldn't see him some kind of a father - because she has no examples of blended families, or friends with step-parents, etc. She doesn't even know what a step-parent is!
I've started doing some research to find books about blended families. The thing is that nearly every book that I've seen focuses on the wedding. I am really really reluctant to tell my daughter about the wedding - mostly because she's four and has zero sense of time. I could barely handle her asking me every day in December if it was Christmas; I don't think I could manage talking to her about a wedding that isn't happening for over a year.
So, I'm wondering: Does anyone know of any good books about blended families? And I know it's asking a lot, but I'd love love love to find a book about different families where the families were anything other than white.
~ eliaday, who doesn't quite know how to start a blended family that isn't quite blended yet.