Watching your child going through something painful is extremely difficult for any parent. We often wish we could take the pain away. We wish we could feel it for them instead.
Watching our children go through their first heartbreaks can be torturous.
Seeing them experience life’s disappointments is not easy.
The good news is that we can help! We can teach them how to be proactive.
We can teach our children how to handle disappointments, challenges, and heartbreaks in ways that prevents them from feeling defeated. In fact, we can teach them how to turn a bad thing into something good for them.
How do we do that?
We model it for them.
When we have difficult and heartbreaking moments in our lives, because we certainly will have them, we have a golden opportunity to show our children how it is done. This is difficult because in those moments we feel weak.
Go through the feelings, feel them, and be most compassionate toward yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for the bad thing that happened, no matter what it is. Assess it correctly. Be very careful not to see it as a catastrophe. It is not, no matter what you might want to feel. Make sure to learn from your mistakes to avoid them in the future.
It is most important to learn to forgive yourself for whatever happened.
Don’t simply waste a bad situation through getting over it, though. Use this opportunity to improve yourself! Get better!
When you handle your mistake, bad situation, heartbreak, or challenge like the true hero that you are, you will teach your child/children to do the same.
What better motivation do you have to be the best that you can?
It is not going to be easy, but it is worth the effort! And… can you do it? Of course you can, I guarantee it!
Once you are on the other side, you will see everything so clearly, and before you know it you’ll be back on the track of your life!
To quote one of my favorite writers, Dr. Seuss, “Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. So get on your way!”