parent of a ‘tween I found myself at the mall with my daughter the other day.
It was right after school and she was still in her all-girls school uniform.
walked by one of the kiosks, a young man stopped her and asked if she went to
ABC Private School – he recognized the uniform as the uniform of his all-boys
high school alma mater’s sister school. He was indeed correct – except my
daughter is in the sister school’s middle school.
it’s the “Asians don’t look their age” stereotype or maybe it’s because she was
in uniform or maybe because she’s tall for her age but as she said yes and I
gave my best KDS (Korean Death Stare) to this young man and gently guided her
down the hall, I had a mix of remembering the feelings of being mistaken as older at that age and what it may mean for my daughter..and me as her mom.
the faster-than-the-speed-of-light economic growth in China, and young people
flooding in from rural areas to the bustling cities in search of jobs and
opportunities, a saying has developed about this group of new-to-the-city young
women: The software doesn’t match the hardware. Kind of creepy when you think
about it. Here’s a young woman in search of opportunity and she has been
reduced to an electronic, a cliché, because she’s attractive but
in the United States are guilty of perpetuating some of that concept, too. Look
around: magazine covers, tv shows, music . . . Have you tried shopping for
“cute” girl clothes recently? Listened to the actual lyrics of some popular songs. Next
time you’re at the grocery store take the time to glance over the covers of magazines specifically designed for your teen!
fellow moms and I complain about the lack of appropriate clothing, the
pressures our girls face to wear make-up, shave their legs and have first
dates/first kisses, etc. And because many of these concepts were foreign to my
mother, the "right" way to navigate through them are in many ways foreign to me.
remember the first time you were mistaken as being older than you really were (as a 'tween/teen)?
Angie in Texas is practicing her KDS for all future boys...
New Year preparations have already started in my neck of the woods. Yesterday, we all headed over to my parents' house to make mandoo. We don't have a set recipe for what goes into our dumplings, but there is pork, beef, extra-firm tofu, sprouts, kimchi, green onion, garlic, salt, and pepper.
This year, my youngest was able to participate! We put her in charge of making the flatter version we use for fried mandoo:
And here is my dad, our resident mandoo-making expert, showing his patented technique for making the plumper kind used in soup:
On New Year's morning, the kids will dress up in their hanboks and bow to their grandparents, saying, "새해 복 많이 받으세요!" Then they'll receive some money and some blessings, then we will all chow down on the dumplings we made!
To ring in the new year, we're giving out presents! One of my fellow Kimchi Mamas has a couple brand-new hanboks she'd like to give away to our readers! They are gorgeous and have really hip colors and styling, so hip in fact, it's hard to find hanboks like these in the States.
There will be two winners, one for the little Kimchi Babies (size 2, suitable for first birthdays and hopefully a year or two afterwards):
...and one for the slightly older Kimchi Kids (size 6...suitable for ages 4-8, depending on how tall they are):
(Just to reiterate, there will be one size 2 winner and one size 6 winner, and they will choose the gender they want.)
Enter by submitting a comment below with one of your family's New Year traditions, along with your preferred gender and size. We will close off comments on January 14th, select a random winner from each size category, and ship the hanboks out in time for Lunar New Year! Good luck!
We all know how hectic life gets after your first, second, or eighth son is born, and being the selfless women we are, we often let our femininity fall by the wayside. If I had a 100-won for every time I left the house with bedhead and no make-up, I'd be able to buy a 5th Gucci purse. Sigh.
However, although I hardly ever wear make-up anymore, people are always so curious to know how I preserve my creamy Asian skin. At least that's what I think they want to know, because they can't keep their hands off of it! Well, the key word is preserve. Let me explain.
We all know how delicious kimchi is, especially when eaten with a steaming bowl of lice, I mean, rice. But did you know that the microorganisms responsible for making this cabbage-y concoction so delectable can also help you fill in those fine lines and wrinkles? That's right! The Fountain of Youth has been in hiding in your refrigerator this whole time! At least that explains the smell.
For flawless skin, I recommend 2 cups of kimchi applied to your face
weekly. Feel free to try out different kinds of kimchi too! I've
found that buchu kimchi is great for minimizing pores, and kkakdugi also
works for all-natural hair removal. Don't ask me how I know
that. Let's just say I haven't had to get a Brazilian ever since.
Double Happiness Beauty Good Luck To YOU!!!
Warning: The actions depicted and/or described
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The comments in the last post inspired me to write this post. =)
Korean hair salons (at least the ones I've been to in the LA area) have some fancy smancy forms of torture. Have you ever had to endure the "magic" straight perm or the "digital" perm? They take forEVER to do. Yet, I endured it, time and time again, so that my straight hair could be straighter.
What do you mean you ask? How can straight hair become straighter? Well, you see, before the "magic" straight perm, my hair would look like this if I didn't blow dry, curl, and/or flat iron it. Sometimes it would look like this even when I DID blow dry it.
So, I have some extra time to myself this week while my daughter is spending some time with her dad.
The plan: haircut!
I haven't gotten my hair cut in over six months. My last hairdresser
said something about "oriental babies" being so cute, so instead of
saying anything, I'm just never going there again.
This time, I went to a Korean hairdresser. I liked her because she
was more business than chatty. But, once I opened my mouth and asked
about wedding hair, it was all over.
Instead of giving me a regular blow dry, she made my hair all pretty
and curly - "Today's your wedding day!" she proudly exclaimed. So,
today, for the first time ever, I have boing-boing curls. And I almost
On the flip side, I am miffed that the makeup artist that works at
the salon made comments about my skin. She told me, "you have an acne
Great. I could feel her looking at my brows, my forehead. Eh. She
asked if I was going to wear contacts when I got married, and I told
her that, no, I don't wear contacts. She was shocked. Now, why in the
world would I trust someone like that to do my makeup for my wedding?
It just confirms all the negative things that I think of when I
think of beauty products and beauty salons. I believe that I can be
beautiful without getting my eyebrows done, without contacts and with
my acne. Why do I need to have curly hair to be beautiful? Who ever
said that my straight black hair isn't beautiful?
I'm torn. I'm enjoying the boing-boing curls for tonight, even
though it just doesn't feel like me. But it makes me want to rebel and
not so anything crazy and fancy with my make-up and hair for the
wedding. Because I'm not that fancy (I'll admit, I am sometimes crazy)
in real life.
But, I'll admit it. I'm totally enjoying flipping my curls, just for tonight.
~ eliaday, who washed out her boing-boing curls this morning and is enjoying straight, newly cut hair.
I used to use Hydro something or another by Isa Knox but it got a little too expensive for me so I have stopped using it. Also, my skin was gettin' a bit dry with the pregnancy and all so now I use the Borghese stuff that they sell at Costco and you know what? It's pretty good. I didn't like the smell at first but my skin seems to like it so yeah...
Korean make up seems to be getting big nowadays... a lot of my Chinese co workers use it and I've seen it being sold at a lot of places that aren't Korean. I guess that's good?!
I love the brow pencil that has the mascara brush type thing-y at the other end of the pencil to "blend" the brow after you draw it in... so convenient!
What's has been your experience with Korean make up, if any?
Here's a picture of the beautiful Hyori selling Isa Knox make up. Didn't even know she was a model for them until I did a google image search...
A recent episode over at momversation got me thinking about this issue.
It seems like circumcision is becoming less and less popular in the US and some are even calling it "mutilation" or "amputation." I had no idea that people were so passionate about this.
I know that in Korea, a lot of boys are circumcised when they are older... like in 5th, 6th grade or even when in high school. I remember watching a Korean movie about a gangster who returns to high school. He and a bunch of other teenage boys at his school get circumcised together. Boy, were they ever in pain. I don't know what the practice is now.
According to Wikipedia "Circumcision in South Korea is largely the result of American cultural and military influence following the Korean War. "
I feel like most Korean men are circumcised and that most Korean women prefer a circumcised penis. Did I just make a huge huge generalization? (Please no lynching.)